Sometimes wild attraction shit happens when you learn to separate masc/fem from man/woman. I’ve known queer women find the femininity in a man attractive. I’ve known gay men get so hot and bothered by the masculinity of a woman.
There was once a guy who was not really my type but then he did drag and was suddenly wildly attractive to me. And since I’m bisexual it doesn’t give me a crisis when someone is suddenly hot to me in an unconventional way. I used to think this was particularly a bi experience.
Then I’ve met plenty of gay men and lesbians who are also chill about that sort of thing. Sometimes life is like that “oops made out with a twink in Brighton who turned out to be a lesbian who thought I was a lesbian” and sometimes it’s like “hey, I’m not normally into men but this guy has got something hot going on.”
There is functionally no difference between doing something nice because you actually care and doing something nice because it makes you feel good or because you think you’re obligated to.
A charity does not care if you’re only donating because your religion says you should; either way, your money is still going to help people. That little old lady next door does not care if you only help her with gardening because being thanked makes you feel good, it’s just nice to have some extra hands.
“Fake it til you make it,” is a phrase for a reason but it’s also okay if you NEVER make it, if you never feel the “correct” emotions behind your actions. Your thoughts and feelings matter considerably less than the impact your actions have on other people.
It’s like that story about the man who was going to donate to the hospital so he could get his name on a plaque, then realizes his motives were self-aggrandizing and spiralled on whether he should donate at all. At last he asked his rabbi, who said. “The sick in the hospital don’t care if you just did it to puff yourself up. Don’t shy away from doing the good thing just because you cannot do it perfectly!”
What an utterly cruel thing to tag this post with while completely missing the point. This post was about reassuring people with low and non-existent empathy that they are capable of being kind and doing good, even when they aren’t feeling the “right” emotions.
If someone does good for gratitude, as opposed to genuine care, that’s better than doing nothing out of apathy or a belief that nothing good you do matters because your motivation is selfish.
You tell the pizza guy you don’t have any money and want to pay in pussy and he just breaks down crying. You were his thirteenth job of the day, after also doing lyft and Doordarsh and task rabbit, and honestly like, the sentiment is nice, he WOULD like some intimacy (he’s so tired by the end of the day, he can’t even masturbate and anyways he feels so disconnected from his body, it’s like a tool for capitalism and he struggles to view it as something capable of pleasure) but honestly, if you could PLEASE just give him $20 so he can afford something off the value menu at McDonald’s. And you feel so miserable, like damn, you and the pizza guy end up splitting the pizza and just talking, and he tells you about his lifelong dream of taking up scuba diving and you tell him about your little etsy business that you do on top of your office job, and for a moment the human connection is enough for the both of you. Yall still fuck. Five stars, delivery driver was considerate, flexible and was open to pegging.
this is for the people who don’t believe that sharing videos and tweets is doing anything we NEED people to see that there are very real consequences for fake reporting we NEED them to know that they are neither welcome nor save among the people in solidarity with Palestine
fuck i can’t believe i wasted my entire life being moved by art and beauty and the indomitable human spirit ugh i should’ve been making money through internet scams
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